We often find that citizens go out for date to discover love or friendship. Make the nighttime an occasion to memorize by planning your romantic candle night ceremonial dinner in a systematic manner. Restructure the cherished ambience of a high end bistro right at your house. Here are some guidelines to keep in mind
1. Decide an idyllic day where you have additional time to prepare for the twilight.
2. Get the excellent silverware. Set your appealing set of tableware and procure a pair of novel wineglasses.
3. Acquire some perfumed candles and arrange to play a compact disk of soothing romantic melody.
4. Print out the list of options on the fine portion of board paper and possibly employ an attendant for the night.
5. Make an endeavor to serve flavorsome dishes that can be left reheating in the oven without turning squelchy.
Author of this post: Phillip Desmond
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Why people relish romance novels so much? It is one of the FAQs, frequently asked questions. The reason is that all the readers try to find their own portraits in the roles of the novels; or these novels hover around direct or indirect theme of ‘kutcha-kutch’ of males and females. (Please don’t ask or don’t try to find the meaning of the phrase ‘kutcha-kutch’ in the dictionaries, as it is to be felt, not to be understood).
Well, it seems I have sidetracked the main question, ‘Who is greatest…..’ To begin with we shall first consider who is the second best? And subsequently we shall come to the main issue.
I believe that second best is none other than me!! Oh, please don’t glare at me or get furious, that the naive author of ‘Love begets wealth’ claims, he is second to author no. one!! There is a reason, a big reason. Someone has said, ‘If none believes in you, believe in yourself’.
Again the main question has been sidetracked, ‘Who is greatest…..’ From time immemorial, from primitive to modern age, the greatest romance author is the Great Almighty, an author who writes real life romantic stories. And all the other authors like me, always merge real life that is fact, with fiction. You might again ask me why. The answer too is obvious. The same Great Almighty has fixed a creative brain in our skull; and at the same time He has given us the liberty to ‘create’.
Had He allowed us to infuse life in our characters (ranging from high-character to characterless ones) He himself might have been awestruck to find far better astounding stories.
Well, in the course of writing this blog, I have unknowingly underrated or challenged Him. And it’s not correct. Hence I confess, I beg His pardon and lastly I pray to Him.
1: Dear Great almighty, I confess that I have blundered. At least I should have spared you in hurling the challenge. 2: For the sin I committed I beg your apology (All my readers, kindly note it). 3: I pray, The Savior, please confer your mercy to succeed, to such an extent, that I excel and surpass you!!!
Sharing intimate emotions is friendship. Sharing varying moods is friendship. Giving vent to personal feelings is friendship.
I make an appeal to express your emotional problems.
I make an appeal to confide in me to open your hearts.
I make an appeal to share your tussles or hassles in romantic relations.
And it’s my feeling that there’s always a solution for however enigmatic conundrum.
Please send your questions and we will see how best they could be resolved.
Friend, you may dare to be yourself
You may share your inner-self
Except ‘monetary assistance’
You may open your heart for help
‘Variety’s the very spice of life, that gives it all its’ flavor’ says William Cowper. ‘Variety is soul of pleasure’ says Aphra Behn. And Johnny Carson adds, ‘If variety is spice of life, marriage is the big can of leftover spam’.
What a great debate? And naturally to follow the advice of the above mentioned intellectuals, every youngster, male or female possesses craving to have relations with someone extra. Yeah, I mean sort of extra marital.
But the great poets and authors who have emphasized ‘variety’ never meant polygamy or polyandry. And we have unnecessarily entered into debate or controversy without understanding the context.
The hidden meaning is to enjoy with the same spouse, all the varying colors, levels, facets and modes operandi. Try ‘variety’ without entering into illegal-immoral-hazardous territory of polygamy. I give you a hint. Why always bill and coo? Try some hill or hillock to woo. Yeah, there you are.
This day, you can enjoy the pleasures of all the seven heavens with the same spouse on the same planet. (I can’t say anything about the future, as we are progressing with astronomical speed, and in near future we may buy a piece of land on moon, construct a resort and start ding-dong-ding there!)
You being an expert cook, you can cook pots of varieties with single item. You heat it or chill it, chop it or grind it, churn it or burn it. Then you may feed the morsel directly in the mouth, or serve the meal in the dish, tossing salt or sugar over it. I hope you have understood the cipher code. Now encipher it and apply it to vary your love-cookery.
Devise variety with the same person in the same life. And yes, you need a change. You can. (Our president too says ‘you can’). Change the place. Why the same cubicle all the time? Try bathrooms, terraces, garages or vehicles in and around the same concrete jungle.
Or select both natural and manmade beautiful places on this expansive earth. Shores and beaches are equipped to welcome you. Gardens and orchards are all set to greet you. Hotels and motels are waiting for you. Castles and towers are built for you. Taste the ‘variety’ of places with the same ‘love’, as all these places have been adorned to cheer you up on the festive season of Holy Christmas.
Cherish and relish the variety by learning the ‘forte’ swaying techniques described in the ancient as well as modern romance novels. If you want to learn indoor games, you can get the names of the books even on ‘Kamsutra’ from the bibliographies of libraries. Experiment each and every position. And same spouse shall be a real dessert and never be a leftover spam. It’s my challenge!
You shan’t find a person who doesn’t like fruit. And, if the same fruit is served in the form of juice with added flavor, people importunately relish it.
The romance novels, the TV serials, the theatrical dramas or films too use the same technique of making their stuff juicy and catch the fancy of the viewers.
People enjoy juicy bit of gossip. And if the narrator puts it piquantly, he or more particularly she attracts crowd. (Gossiping is ‘her’ territory!)
We enjoy the sweet song of a singer. But when the vocalist adds the juicy twists in his notations, audience gets mad.
Conversion to juice and addition of spice makes the things tastier. And that’s the reason the malls are flooded with juicers and blenders.
And the same theme literally and appropriately applies to romantic advances. We enjoy juicy and pulpy romance better than the one served in conventional raw-food form.
People send befitting signals with body language. They use all or any types of communicative messages, as talking, appreciating or even flattering. They are adept in using the techniques of mesmerism. They learn and implement all the sixty four positions described in the volumes of ‘Kamsutra’. They apply ‘time and motion’ studies with different perspective. They alternatively use ’space and frame’, ‘ground and niche’, or ‘garden and beach’ to break the monotony. They extract unconventional juice from the conventional fruit.
Then they add chivalry, courtship, wooing, exposing or undressing; and other such strong spices to the ambrosial juice. It is called as the value addition.
The people who know this secret are the real tycoons in the market of romance, and the ones who lack the knowledge, despite their charm or beauty lag behind in the field of romance.
What a great meaning has been imbibed in the lines below:
When we suckle the juice
To buckle the truce
Or
When we buckle the truce
To suckle the juice
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Wound heals
And gap fills
Fire ceases
And love flares
Romance
Goes amok
To break the floor
And to hit the roof
When the current, called as love or lust passes through the human body ‘romantic field, is created; which is just similar to the ‘magnetic field’.
The sources of magnetic as well as romantic field are essentially dipolar in nature. When flux plays its role, the ‘north’ pole of the magnet is attracted to ’south’ pole. In the same manner when sex plays its role, man is attracted to woman.
For the magnetic field, you refer physics. For the romantic field you have to refer chemistry; as it is under the command of different chemical secretions of the body.
Just observe. A boy is going from right to left. A girl, at the same time, goes from left to right. While crossing, at the midway their eyes meet. Both slow down the pace and inadvertently linger. Why? It’s because they get attracted. They sometime, if the pull is strong enough, literally forget the destination and go astray from their very purpose of the emergence from the point of commencement.
When skirt flies with gust
Bodice slips from the bust
Once he quenches his thirst
Ego or fury reduces to dust
In the four lines the quintessence of the life is narrated. The emotion called as anger intermittently surges up in many couples. But when they enter the zone of ‘romantic field’, the anomalies neutralize, differences harmonize and ship of the life sails smooth.
Yes, it’s a fact!
“Magnetism magnifies magnanimity of heart”
Women say, ‘Men are complex beings.’ Men say, ‘Women are the species, most difficult to comprehend.’ When games people play, initially woman expects ‘He should come and propose me. I don’t care. Hundred guys wag their tails before me.’ Then it is mans’ turn. He thinks, ‘Why she doesn’t open her heart if she really loves me? Does she think that she is Merlyn Monroe?’
This is the only game in which, when he doesn’t hide, she doesn’t seek; and vice versa. Both expect and keep on saying, ‘You first’, ‘No, no, you first’ and both miss the train.
In the mean time, the activities around us are not halted. Happenings keep happening. Unforeseen events surge. Roads branch off. ‘You first-you first’ labyrinths and outcome is ‘None first-none ever’. Both really miss the train. Someone else steals the cheese.
Romantic love demands timely communication, affirmation and confirmation. It needs consent quickly, regularly and for rest of the life. That’s why the phrase ‘I love you’ never gets stale or outdated.
If you really love her
Immediately knock
Initiate the talk
If you crave for her
Directly Propose
In poetry or prose
Keep up wooing
In initial stages
Even for decades
Remember an adage
Seeking spring roll
Never hide the bowl
In most of the cases, we marry to a person with almost little prior knowledge. As the life progresses, traits and dispositions of the spouses unfold. Then we start auditing, how much does the spouse match to our expectations, to the tentative picture drawn in our mind.
Using our own units of weights and measures, we start weighing the virtues or frailties in the pair of scales, ranging from the chemical balance, the one goldsmiths use, to the gigantic scales.
Sane and sensible people keep on ignoring the flaws; and if our minds are biased or timid, we look every little flaw through the magnifying glass. And the quantity and span of love nourished and romance cherished varies accordingly.
It is said that conjuncture of the planets in our horoscope decide our spouse. Well, if it’s true and accidently we are a bit mismatch to one another, can we not put our skill, persistence and determination to tune, match and to create a right relationship? Can we not build the castles of ‘love and romance’ laying foundation of pragmatism?
In some caste and creeds, in some of the so called under-developed or backward countries, the divorces are socially barred. And it is observed that in such type of framed paradigms, the instances of conflicts do arise. But, if due to inevitability such ‘hurricane in the mug’ isn’t settled mutually, it is brought to the family members and subsequently to chieftains of the society.
The prime role of judiciary is to decide against partition, to counsel them on how to build lasting love. In many of the instances the marriages are saved from wreckage. The lives of these magnetic poles are taught to attract by reverting the repelling positions. For the centuries, the same lives have been providing sufficient stuff, the material to the authors of romance novels.
I salute to that unknown fellow who has defined love in his thought provoking quote, ‘Love is not about finding the right person, but creating a right relationship. It’s not about how much love you have in the beginning but how much love you build till the end.’
To refuse or to digest refusal is one of the delicate science and difficult art. Yes, it is science; if not handled scientifically it shuns. And it is an art; if not brushed aside properly it disfigures. And the youth can never endure it, particularly in the territory of Romance.
You like somebody, you love somebody. Still you don’t dare to propose. The reason is that at the farthest corner of your mind, you nurture a fear of denial.
You are obsessed with the craving and there you don’t want to take slightest chance of refusal or reversal. Your obsessive urge doesn’t want to take a chance to listen ‘I’ll think or I’ll see or I’ll let you know later’ type of phrases; as there’s always some degree of uncertainty.
However, one must learn to deny or to accept denial sportily. When our parents refuse our petty demands, we don’t tolerate. But slowly we start accepting refusal. But the kids who are spoilt due to over-indulgence always face problems when they tackle the outside world. And in the matters of love, if they are rejected, they go haywire. They literally collapse.
With such type of mentalities, sometime we find the sensational headlines in the newspapers, ‘The college girl commits suicide as her boyfriend rejects her’. Or ‘a boy hurls acid to disfigure the face of his beloved when she refuses to marry him’.It’s my advice to the youth that whenever the question of refusal comes from either side:
*Don’t overreact. Try hard to keep patience.
*Prepare yourself with proper homework, take necessary advice, avoid haste but don’t linger too much. Put your authentic proposal. The chances might it turn in your favor.
*If not, keep your head as well as ass cool. Let the situation take its natural course. It’s not necessary to assume that once denied is a lifetime discard. Find out your weaknesses or shortcomings; try to overcome and rectify. Resubmit the plea. The door this time might open.
*If not, and if you strongly feel that the iron doors are permanently closed, think of someone else. There’s no scarcity of better beauties in this world. Don’t be so emotional with first or first few repudiations. Will, will find a way. You will find better on the way. Trust Him. It is said that “He has given hunger will He arrange food too!’
*There are different types of romantic episodes imbibed in romance novels, ready to guide you and prove that the failure in the matter of love too is a stepping stone to success, if you don’t lose the nerve.
