Treasures of Life

To refuse or to digest refusal is one of the delicate science and difficult art. Yes, it is science; if not handled scientifically it shuns. And it is an art; if not brushed aside properly it disfigures. And the youth can never endure it, particularly in the territory of Romance.

You like somebody, you love somebody. Still you don't dare to propose. The reason is that at the farthest corner of your mind, you nurture a fear of denial.

You are obsessed with the craving and there you don't want to take slightest chance of refusal or reversal. Your obsessive urge doesn't want to take a chance to listen 'I'll think or I'll see or I'll let you know later' type of phrases; as there's always some degree of uncertainty.

However, one must learn to deny or to accept denial sportily. When our parents refuse our petty demands, we don't tolerate. But slowly we start accepting refusal. But the kids who are spoilt due to over-indulgence always face problems when they tackle the outside world. And in the matters of love, if they are rejected, they go haywire. They literally collapse.

With such type of mentalities, sometime we find the sensational headlines in the newspapers, 'The college girl commits suicide as her boyfriend rejects her'. Or 'a boy hurls acid to disfigure the face of his beloved when she refuses to marry him'.It's my advice to the youth that whenever the question of refusal comes from either side:

*Don't overreact. Try hard to keep patience.

*Prepare yourself with proper homework, take necessary advice, avoid haste but don't linger too much. Put your authentic proposal. The chances might it turn in your favor.

*If not, keep your head as well as ass cool. Let the situation take its natural course. It's not necessary to assume that once denied is a lifetime discard. Find out your weaknesses or shortcomings; try to overcome and rectify. Resubmit the plea. The door this time might open.

*If not, and if you strongly feel that the iron doors are permanently closed, think of someone else. There's no scarcity of better beauties in this world. Don't be so emotional with first or first few repudiations. Will, will find a way. You will find better on the way. Trust Him. It is said that "He has given hunger will He arrange food too!'

*There are different types of romantic episodes imbibed in romance novels, ready to guide you and prove that the failure in the matter of love too is a stepping stone to success, if you don't lose the nerve.

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